Do You Know Who You Are Influencing?

Well would you look at that? It’s been a whole year since I started this blogging business and while I think it took a little while for me to find my feet, I’m pretty comfortable where I’m at with it all. It took a little bit of time to start getting some interaction but I didn’t let that bother me. Many years ago, I gave a presentation on moral courage and how you influence people. Most of the time, and I would say 95% of the time, you don’t ever know or understand how you influence people. I saw a great example of that on Instagram the other day where a person declared to an Insta-celebrity (not even sure if that’s a term but I’m using it) that they had inspired and lifted them out of a very dark hole. The response was gold in that she responded with words to the effect of “I didn’t even know you were fighting demons, I just thought you were a genuinely beautiful soul”. Well even I felt uplifted by that and I’m not even involved in the conversation!!

 

Influencing people is an interesting thing. I think those that are most successful at it are just going about their day and living their best life and, most importantly, aren’t being a dick to other people. People can sense when someone is not being genuine. I think those that seek to influence people through constantly putting on an act in order to get the accolades of “influencing and inspiring people” are doing it for the wrong reasons. I think in the Instagram example I used before, that influence and inspiration was a by-product of being truly human and genuine. Can you imagine the state of the world and all our relationships if people could be truly human and genuine to each other? Ah Utopia …. I see you there in the distance, glistening away with all your wonderfulness. The world will reach you one day!!

 

Any hoo, it’s been an interesting time for me over the last few weeks. I turned 40. Uneventful in that no one was arrested for anything but the time was spent with some great people just doing what we do best. Having a few drinks and chatting and having a bit of fun. My cruise was fantastic. If you’ve never done one, you should. And get the drinks package!! I’ve had some relaxing time at home with #gymdog who only took two days to forgive me for leaving him (don’t be fooled, he had a great time while I was away) and now I’m not allowed out of his sight without a full explanation of what I’m doing and why he can’t come with me. It may well be a rude shock for him next week when I go back to work and he can’t come with me. After all my travel I did end up with some hip issues which I’ve been working through with my brilliant chiropractor at Enhance Healthcare in Mitchell. If you need anything (remedial massage, acupuncture, chiro) that is the place to go!! It has significantly delayed my plans to start running again but it has given me the opportunity to rehab myself and work on other plans for the year.

 

2018 will bring quite a few changes to me personally and I’m looking forward to sharing those experiences with you as they occur. One thing I did learn about myself while I was on my cruise. I was reading another book (amazing thing reading when you allow yourself the headspace to do it) The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. OMG! What a great book!! I took so much out of it and carrying it around on the ship was a great conversation starter with so many people! If you have a good look at yourself and can work out where you are spending your energy and aren’t happy with what you find, then this book is for you. By the time I was done reading, I felt like I’ve generally got all my fucks in the right place. Don’t get me wrong, there’s definitely a couple that have snuck out and are spending time where they shouldn’t but, for me, it’s just a matter of working out what values led them there in the first place. Do those values support me and do good things for me? Because that’s where all my fucks should be going. If those values aren’t serving me well, it’s time to change the value. You know what, even if you think you have all your fucks in the right place, you should just get the book and read it anyway. It was entertaining, relatable and actually great to share some of the passages with friends over some drinks.

 

I also read something on Facebook the other day about the things you should give up when you turn 40. There was a whole bunch of stuff like not apologizing for what you want and who you are and being comfortable in your own skin. My advice to all you people under the age of 40 …. Don’t wait until you’re 40 to be those things! Be comfortable in your own skin now. Feel free to not explain your actions to the people that don’t matter (Dr Seuss comes to mind here … those that mind don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind). Be truly and unapologetically YOU! You never know who you might be influencing by being your truest you.

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